What am I really afraid of?

Satnaam Ji,
Dandauth bandhana ji,
 
if you are finding that your mind is unsettled then ask yourself "What am I really afraid of?"
 
It has been helpful to me relfect on that question and to find the root cause.
 
Because whatever it is we are afraid of losing is a result of the MOH Doot.
 
Dassan Dass Ji has said in the Sukhmani articles, that if we have a fear of losing something or someone then that is the result of MOH (attachment thief).
 
So if you would like, please do some soul searching  and ask yourself, "What am I really afraid of losing?"  and hence expose the MOH doot within.

 

Then pray to God-Guru, "Sachey Patshah Ji, I am full of Moh, I am afraid of losing so many things, please free me from this Doot, please forgive me for my mistakes and bless me with the Gurprasad of Naam, Naam simran, Naam Ki Kamai, Puran Bandagi, Seva - Parupkaar and Maha Parupkaar."
 
Dust of your feet
Harjit

Phone conversation with Baba Ji - Money and manipulation

Satnaam Satguru Satsangat Ji,

always and forever keep us under your holy feet,

keep us a as a spec of dust on the soles of your shoes,

we dont need to be anyone's equal,

we have found our place under your Charan Saran.

 

 

We are so so so fortunate, so blessed to have baba ji and dassan dass ji with us, otherwise this mind and our karma just eats us away.

 

A few days ago we received a call out of the blue after 5 years from "Gurmukh Ji" the one who helped me so much in 1996 - see "Harjit Diary".

 

We were happy to hear from him, he kind of badgered us to go and meet him - hard to say no to him.  His son also told us on the phone that

he was really thankful that we helped them all those years ago with the loan to get his sister married.  And now he was calling on behalf of his father

to ask if we could help him to get married too.

 

At that, I was really surprised.  It is obvious to anyone that they didnt pay back the loan at that time and now had a cheek to ask again.

But at the same time, he was guru Nanak for me at that time and perhaps this is Hukam for me to test me, to see if I have forgiven him to lend again.

Deep down we did not feel comfortable, but at the same time we do not want to say no to God's saints.  so we just kept saying to God,

"Tan sant ka, man santan ka dhan santan ka" ...body belongs to the sants, wealth belongs to the sants and mind belongs to the sants.

We kept thinking of how kind Guru Arjun Dev ji is in Gurbani that he gave everything for the love of the Sants, "santeh charan hamaro matha, nain daras tn dhoor parao"

..may my forehead stay at the feet of the sant, my eyes behod them and my body be covered with their holy foot dust.

 

We thought of how much love Guru Tegh Bahadur ji had for the sants, for when the Kashmiri Pandits came and needed a saviour, guru ji didnt hesitate to go and give his head.

 

We thought of how Dhan dhan guru Gobind singh ji came into the world with one mission to protect the Sants and destroy the tyrants - the persecutors of the Sants.

 

So we felt really bad that deep down we did not want to give any kind of loan to Uncle Ji, but he was a Sant for us and we should help him and it may be hukam that he called.

 

 

We resolved that we will call baba ji, and if baba ji says give him all the money he needs then we will do so without hesitation.

 

BABA JI asked us to write the details of the financial dealings we had with him so here they are as much as i remember - but i try not to remember as we have forgiven him and have no desire for that money to be returned, because this is what baba ji has taught us and it has freed our mind.  We were also feeling today that actually in 1996 we did GIVE him a gift of about £30 first, the £300, then £2000 - and we did that because he asked us and we gave it because we loved him and how he had helped us.  And also we said at that time, that Guru Nanak Ji has given it to us in one hand and himself takes it from the other hand.  But then he asked us to lend him £10,000 for the complete wedding of his daughter.   I did say no first.   But then saw his face in ardas the next day, and it was like a rose had been trampled on by an elephant and I did not like to see a beautiful rose like that.  So in the name of Guru Nanak Dev Ji we lent him the money, and LENT was the key word, he agreed he would pay back the monthly installments.

He paid back the first installment, but none after that.   I remember at that time I became furious inside towards him, and left his sangat but unfortunately aslo went off into maya having been hurt.  I paid off the loan plus interest of about £2K.  So the total given was about £14200.

 

But with Baba Ji's kindness we have forgotten about it until a few days ago when he called after all these years and its only to borrow more money.  so we called Baba ji because we dont want to go against God by saying no, or lose to Greed Doot either, or fail the test if its a Hukam.  And as soon as we explained it to baba ji he said, that that person was not a Sant in deeds.  to look as he may be wearing White and doing meditation and so on, but on the inside he is not a Sant in deeds.  Because if he gave His word to repay the money, then he should have done anything and everything to pay it back, even if it meant working or begging on the street.  Because we have to have truthful living.  Baba ji told us that he was abusing us.  That was not the truthful action of a sant.  Baba ji said the fact we saw the light of his aura was because we were furuther than him and god was pleased with us.  but the aura is even on lesser gods like Brahm, Shiva, Vishnu and other so called sants, but it doesnt mean they are free from desires.   Baba Ji said it was better to lie at the feet of Susan because she died for Truth, she lived the Truth and faced the consequences.  Baba ji said that thank that person for all he taught me, but i had gone much further than him in deeds, because after 13 years he is still stuck in borrowing manipulating money consciousness as he has come back for another "loan" wereas we have served and served and lived the Truth and forgiven and helped thousands, he is still stuck in his little world doing "bhagti" for himself, stuck in religion in wearing white and so on.

 

We said to baba ji we are nothing, we dont want to think bad of anyone , we just dont want to make any mistakes and hurt any Sants especially if its hukam of the phone call.  but baba ji said it is only hukam if it ends up in Satnaam - if his request is truthful then its hukam, not if its a play of maya, then its not hukam.

 

Baba ji fred our mind, we felt so much amrit from baba ji when he gave us the answer. 

 

We love you always and forever baba ji,

 

With gukirpa we have recorded our conversation and you can hear it hear

 

http://www.box.net/shared/z7ks371ziq

 

It is an *.amr file which will play with Windows media player or Quicktime, but you may have to download it, right click and select "open with...windows media player".

 

dust of your feet

 

Harjit

 

 

pendulum of the mind

satnaam ji,dandauth bandhana ji

 

The mind goes through peaks and troughs my friend!

Swinging of the pendulum from high to low.

Baba ji said to us as you do more and more bhagti the swinging of the pendulum decreases,

and when you do go down, you will bounce back quicker.

 

With Guru ji's kirpa since we have actually been putting into practise giving 2.5hrs a day , without fail which is only possible with guru ji's kirpa, we have noticed that our mind has not gone into doom and gloom kind of thoughts, our anger and irritability has gone down 99%, our lust has gone down to 99%, our desires have gone down, saying negative comments has gone down, getting up ealry and the resistance to get up and out of bed has gone, so Dassan Dass ji has always said to us not to miss a day, but we have missed so many days up until this year.

 

Same for you and everyone else, have to turn your life u;pside down and make doing 2.5 hrs a day top priority,  and even doing half an hour in the evening is really essential too, ontop of which doing seva with your free time is the best thing to do.

 

We have to sacrifice soemthing of maya that we love in order to progress in bhagti.  So with guru ji''s kirp we have promised in our ardas that now we will not watch tv and have been instead usinge that time to get the sukhmani books edited, designed published, distributed instead.

Its all in your hands, how much you want to give up maya, and how much you want to do keep your hands busy in seva rather than busy in maya.

 

Whatever Dassan Dass ji has writtend on the website is Truth, Truth, Truth, but the hardest thing to do is to putit into practise, so we have to keep on PRAYING, PRAYING and PRAYING for Gurprasad, for forgiveness for God to come into our heart.

 

Dust of your feet

Harjit

Why does God let evil happen?

ik onkar satnaam satgurprasad||

 

 

QN:

I noticed something when thinking just a little while ago.  The Jews persecuted Jesus, the Romans persecuted the Jews, The Moguls persecuted the Hindus and Sikhs, the Hindus persecuted the Sikhs (1984, delhi riots) the muslims are now being persecuted by the Jews (israel) and also the west.  This cycle of evil keeps going on, and nowhere in history shows signs of mercy, and where are the signs of God? Why would He let this happen? Such evil?  If it is karma, they why so much bloodshed...the holocaust for example?  I know in my heart he is there, here, everywhere but why couldnt he stop that evil?

 

REPLY FROM HARJIT:

satnaam ji
dandauth bandhana ji
 
I'm sure that not all Jews persecuted Jesus, not all Romans persecuted jews etc ...you can never generalise.  It comes down to an individual and his/her deeds.  Baba Ji explained to us that human nature goes from animal consciousness all the way up to Truth consciousness.  God is Truth, yet he created Maya, lower consciousness, the Law of Karma, this whole Game so that He Himself could find Himself and know what He is.  It is Him in us that we call our soul, it is Him that is reminding us - our mind, to realise Him.  Everything that is happening, is Him doing it to Himself.    He is Truth consciousness - the peak, but our soul starts off in lowest animal consciousness and works through countless lifetimes.  Maya is the mountan.  Bandagi - i.e.our labouring on naam simran and seva and bringing in divine qualities is how we climb this mountain.  It is all within us - hell , heaven and sachkhand - Truth.   If individuals in a place or a group are more lower consciousness then that group does horrendous acts as you have mentioned.  But, Sat Sangat is the Compnay of Truth Consciousness beings and that is what we are trying to be part of.   Because, when oour ego becomes nothing, then God - the brightness of our soul -  becomes everything and His goodness, kindness, Naam and Gurprasad shines through us into this dark world of maya, to uplift all those around us, top uplift the consciousness of all those around us.
 
That is what its all about, for us to become a lighthouse in this dark world to help other souls move to Truth consciousness as well. always remember that it is our ego, under the influence of desires and five thieves that do all the evil acts.  God is true and beautiful, pure and perfect and is waiting for us to let Him into our heart.  Only Ego does evil, not God.  Its upto us to decide which one is going to run us and our group.
 
Dust of your feet,

Harjit

Inner sound and light

Ik onkar satnaam satgurprasad||

Dandauth Bandhana Ji.

 

We can all learn from the Q&A below.  Many people when they go and first meet a Sant think that the Sant should be able to read their mind and tell them those things, then that proves they are a Sant.  I know sometimes I used to think like that when i was young (& DUMB!!).  Once a Sikh came to see a Sant Ji and kept saying, "If you are a Sant, then show me something."  And  the Sant replied something like, "Guru Pyario Ji, all I have is this."  And promptly got up and touched the feet of the Sikh.  All a Sant has is humility and that is always the answer to Haumai.  To which the Sikh got startled and started apologizing and saying that he wan't worthy of having his feet touched.   The Sant is in this world to show us one thing and one thing only and that is how to kill the ego, so that the "I" , the "me, myself and mine" attitude dies before our physical body dies and our time runs out.  The Sant has killed their own Haumai and is humility overflowing.  When Guru Nanak Dev Ji merged with Sat Naam Karta Purakh and was given the mission on Earth, Bhai Nand Lal Ji wrote that God gave Guru Nanak Dev Ji two things to give to the world and they were 1) Naam and 2) humility (Gareebee).

 

Dust of your feet

Harjit

 

QN :

I am 100% sure that there is nobody on this earth is a perfect master who can give the spritual experience of inner sounds and light.If you are so  contact me in my Antar (inner being).

REPLY FROM DASSAN DASS JI:

Ik Oankaar Satnaam Satgur Parsaad Dhan Dhan Paar Braham Parmesar JI Dhan Dhan Gur Guru Satgur Gurbani Satsangat Satnaam   Guru Pyare RK Jee   The basic reason for such beliefs is Haumai, self wisdom and worldly wisdom, to be truthful this kind of a belief is Haumai, and where there is Haumai, there is a rule of Maya, the slavery of Maya is the road block to the complete realization. The inner sound is the Anhad Shabad – Anhad Naad – continuous divine music – Akhand Kirtan –Panch Shabad Anhad Naad which is heard in the Dassam Duaar on a continuous non-stop basis and the divine light is Param Jyot Puran Parkash in the Hirda – which is a Sat Hirda. This happens only to those who win over the Maya and are beyond three attributes of Maya. The perfection is only in Totality – and Totality is only and only Infinite divine power – Dhan Dhan Paar Braham Pita Parmesar JI Himself, but at the same time a Puran Sant a Puran Braham Gyani a Satgur or a Puran Khalsa is defined as a living God on Earth. Only a complete surrender to such a soul can create a contact in the Anter and not by challenging such a soul. So God bless you with the divine wisdom, which only can open up your mind and Hirda and pave your way to the connection in your Anter.   Dassan Dass

Tips to get out of Kaam - lust

Satnaam ji,
Dandauth bandhana ji
 

When you really want to get out of the grips of lust, then you can do it and you will do it with Guru's kindness.

Confess your problem and the things that you have done in the name of lust - confess and pray to God-Guru for forgiveness.

A sincere prayer is hear right away and forgiven even before we finish our prayer- that is how kind God-Guru is to us.

Then when you really want to get out of Kaam -lust, deep down, then change your habits to avoid the situations where kaam gets you.  For me it was to avoid watching TV after 9pm.  For others it was to get rid of their laptop.   Then battle with the cravings of the mind to go back to those habits for a few weeks and months, then it gets easier.
 
Also when walking by women in daily life, just diverting my eyes to their feet and repeating "ukee soothak koor par tria roopak dekh" ...the falseness of the eyes is in looking at the beauty of other women..Guru Nanak Dev Ji. Becoming aware of what our eyes are doing, what thoughts are then going through our mind and nipping it in the bud by overwriting it with this one line really really helped repgrogram my habits.
 
When sleeping with your partner keep your mind on your wife and not dreaming of other women is good too - Guru Gobind Singh ji said dont even think of another women even in a dream.  Even while fantasizing keep your mind focused on your wife and no one else.
 
In all these ways you can help to reign in your mind.  It may not be possible to instantly turn of f kaam, but at least we can contain it to thoughts of our partner only.  Then it doesnt bite us, then it is not considered as lust, Kaam as far as I understand.
 
And most importantly Baba ji told me once (without me asking, but it was on my mind at that time!) to just keep doing "Sat naam Sat naam" even through the act of Kaam.

Dust of your feet
Harjit

strength, strength, strength

satnaam satguru satsangat ji, dandauth bandhana ji

 

 

Just like to share a few experiences with you , with Guru ji's kirpa.

 

Yogi Bhajan ji said estate agents have a saying "location, location, location", but on the path to God the motto is "strength, strength, strength".

 

Physical strength.

Mental strength.

Spiritual Strength.

 

With Guru ji's kirpa I have been building strength in all three of these areas over the last few years, so his motto seems very true.

 

 

Being physically weak has caused no end of difficulties in my life, from long term knee problems, to frequent neck and back aches,

to weak immune system resulting in catching colds and flus, sniffing and coughing all of the time.   With guru ji's kirpa over the last 5 years,

Guru ji has taken me into yoga first , then good diet, now weights and running too.  Having a strong body and good diet has really lifted my spirit.

It has also lifted us out of laziness, lethargy, overeating and an inactive lifestyle.  When I was at rock bottom and completely unable to concentrate on naam simran,

running and excercise and doing "satnaam satnaam" at the same time was a very easy way to feel good (release of natuarl endorphins - "happy hormone") as well as to get the mind into a rhythm and to concentrate on one activity for longer periods of time.

 

Being mentally weak, means being unable to stand strong in the Guru's words.  Being unable to give daswand of time and money.  Being unable to give up

the 3Ms of My money, My reputation and My family.  Being unable to put God-Guru at number one, Gursanagat at number 2 and family and friends at number 3.  And rather

putting keeping the family and religion happy rather than keeping God-Guru's words highest.  All of last year was spent away from satsangat because I didn't want to have more arguments at home.   Being mentally weak, means crumbling inside when people dont like us, slander us and threaten to leave us.  Being scared of losing our wife, our job and our comfortable life.  Having more faith in my bank account than in my guru. Having more faith in my own past expereinces, rather than full faith in Guru's wisdom.  Being unable to trust fully the guru's word and to put it into practise.  That was why I kept falling back into maya, failing the tests and learning the hard way. 

 

Mental strength has come by BELIEVING our Guru is God on Earth and His words are the word of God - amrit bachans- and to give everything just on the foundation of belief, regardless of if I lose my nearest and dearest, if i lose my wealth and reputation.  At the beginning of the year, I resolved to try my hardest with guru's kirpa to make this one line come true for me "tunn munn dhan sabh saup gur kau, hukam mannio   paaiaa" ...sacrifice mind, body and wealth ALL to the Guru, obeying the HUKAM (command) one realises the Truth ...Guru Amar Das Ji.   With guru ji's kirpa we started gving 2.5 hrs of simran in the early hours - for the first couple of months we did it in ego , did it all wrong become very agitated and very angry at family for no reason.  Previously, 6 years ago i gave up trying to do simran in the early hours as i just got too stressed.  but this time with guru's kirpa I  just prayed to God-Guru that I wasn't giving up no matter what happened and begged for him to show me the way through.  and he did - humbleness, to become a slave, to do simran with the attitude of a dog waiting patiently at the Master's table for a crumb or two to fall down.

 

With guru's kirpa I also started giving  daswand, giving back to guru what was his already, but that I think is mine.  I did it in secret.  But the truth comes out, and my wife found out.  It lead to a big clearing of issues and sorting of finances and has actually worked out for the best as she is now motivated to give daswand too.  But at the spearating of finances, it left me with £50 in my account, the lowest i;ve ever had and even worried that i would not be able to take out daswand the following month.  However, baba ji always says that god is already planning where our next piece of food is coming from and same applies to money.  One week later our company announced a surprise bonus, which they previously had said we would definitely not be getting.  So it was easy to go back into maya and stop giving dasand at this time as I had previously done a few years ago when things got tight.  But with full faith this time and passing up the fear to Guru, it has worked out.  Even then i had to struggle to give it yesterday. But am glad that I did so with guru's kirpa.  Because simran is going higher now.

 

Which brings me with Guru's kirpa nicely onto spiritual strength.   Spiritual strength has been building up gradually over the last year.  One year ago Tavleen, our yungest, had extremely bad exczma and vitilag (white spots), I was unable to do any naam simran for myself at that time due to un upset mind.  but out of compassion with guru's kindness I was able to do do reiki for her.  And just with that one acto of compassion for 10 minutes a day, God has given us back amritvela and long hours of simran.  Now I am even feeling love in my heart.  Baba Ji always says compassion leads to love, and in a loving heart Truth can reside.  Just in the last few weeks lots more has been happening spiritually.  As well as doing mornign simran, also doing evening simran and the metanl sickness of anger and iiritibility has mostly left this mind.  children are happioer, wife is happier, when people around are happier it is easier, much easier for me to do simran.  a few weeks ago Dassan dass ji came into our smadhi and as we touched his holy feet our hirda filled with amrit, everytime we touched his feet the amrit exapnded.   Then last week baba ji came and we said we give him everything and he also started off simran in our hirda.   Then this morning, went into smadhi and felt this body exapnaing, inflating with amrit and amrs rising upwards in ASAN - whcih never happens to me, and in that smadhi state, which was not under our control at all, we kep doing satnaam simran and kept thanking baba ji for all his kindness, upon me, a slanderer, who was not and still is not worthy, who is so full of filth and stubborness.  and as we did this ardas the amrit increased.  And we did this ardas again and the amrit surged again.

 

Physical strength, to mental strength to spiritual strength.

 

By giving munn (mind).tunn(body) and wealth (dhan) and obeying the Guru's divine words as the word of God himself. 

 

Leads to strength, strength, strength.

 

May God-guru bless you always and forever.

 

dust of your feet

harjit