May Satguru bless you.
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Satnaam ji,
dandauth bandhna ji
our anger is of our own making, we cant blame anyone else, no matter what happens around us, its our choice how we react inside. You may feel its not your choice as you dont want the anger, but yet it keep on coming up. That is because it is deep in our subconcscious. So that is why even though consciously you can say you dont want it, but still it doesnt go.
So you have to sit in your simran, and start bby doing ardas "satguru ji I am full of anger, please forgive me, I am your child, please show me the way." ..or words of your own choosing , but sincerely from your own heart.
Then forgive the other people and wash their feet and recite "haumai nahee tuhi tu satnaam (no ego only you satnaam)" and wash the feet of your guru first until you feel love for satnaam .
Then take that love and wash the feet of the satsangat until you feel love for satnaam.
then take that love and wash the feet of your family until you feel love for satnaam
then (the hard bit) take that love and wash the feet of those who have hurt you, until you dont see them anymore, only feel love for satnaam inisde them as well.
You have to do this everyday for as long as it takes, even now we still do it every morning to clear any minor resentments or issues that come up.
The only reason we cant let go is
a) we feel hurt
b) we feel they got away with it
c) we feel we haven't been heard
and as much as we would like to go and confront them and have it out with them, we know its not going to happen, so then we feel trapped - frustrated. but just by going to the gym, that inner anger doesnt go.
So we have to let it go, trust in God that no one escapes his justice (karma), and focus on what we want to be - pure and beautiful by reciting satnaam, rather than dark and miserable (by focusing on our past hurts).
You dont have to call anyone as your husband/wife or ex-husband/ex-wife - you are just playing games - defining yourself in relation to others. Just see all as Satnaam, all as having God inside them, and then you will see Satnaam inside yourself as well. Get out of the game of relationships defined by worldy people.
God bless all.
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