if eveything is in God's hand ...

QN;

Harjit Bhaji,
                  Thanks for all your help.Sometimes It often comes in my mind that if eveything is in gods hand then why doesn't he end all the suffering and ends all the crime.

REPY:

Satnaam Veer Ji,

Dandauth Bandhna Ji.

 

It is all in HIS Hands, just that our ego doesn't want to accept it and doesn't let go of our wants and desires, which then brings in anger and the other dhoots.

 

His HUKAM i.e. His Will or Divine commands runs everything.  But people get confused and say, then I am not to blame for bad deeds, if it is all happening under His Hukam.

 

Actually after reading the Sukhmani book by Dassan Dass ji , we understand better now, that the HUKAM refers to the Divine Laws as stated in Gurbani.  so under the HUKAM the Divine Law of Karma is established.  We are running under that Divine Law of what we sow we reap.

 

Like in a soccer match, the players (us) come out to play (gerenate deeds) according to the pre-established rules (Hukam).

Most people play the game of Maya  with passion and live just for the game.  Some others hower realise that the game of Maya and the rules are all created by some higher being and search for the Truth and hence come out of the Maya Game into the GurParsaadi Game.  They go onto understand the rules and the rulemaker (God).

 

God has created the Game of Maya.  He is the soul in us playing under the influence of Maya.  But He is also above Maya - the Supreme soul.  All we have to do is go beyond Maya, our soul into supreme soul.  Surrender to the Hukam by giving up our ego and hence our wants and desires which keep us playing in the game of Maya.

 

Dust of your feet

 

Harjit

 

Meditation for removing haunting thoughts..from Yogi Bhajan Ji

Ik oankar sat naam sat gurparsaad||

 

Meditation for removing haunting thoughts..

 

There is a meditation yogi bhajan gave with 5 parts..thinking of a situation where you felt very hurt,

 

1) bringing up the feeling,

2) feeling how the other person felt,

3) forgiving yourself,

4) forgiving them and

5) letting it go to the universe..

 

After each of the steps you breathe in, hold the breath and focus on the right eye and chant "wa," the left eye-"hey,",the tip onf the nose-"guru ,"and then let the breath out. You can repeat the same incident as much as needed, or go from one to another, whatever comes up.

 

I did it for 90 days in the late 90's when yogi b sent it to me..it is subtle and really starts the healing process.

 

Not sure it is in a manual but have seen it in compiled old teachings..bound together but untitled..might ask if anyone has it..

 

 

sat nam

amrita

 

http://www.soulanswer.com/broken_hearts.html

 

 

dust of your feet

Harjit

How to focus and what to recite in Simran

QN:

Sat Shri Akal Ji, Harjit i want to share one thing with you I really get hurt when I see so much frustation in people heart's. No one loves anyone.All people want is money.Another thing is when we do naam simran what should be the actual words that we should recite.And I cant remain consitent.Can you tell me how to remain consistent.Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh

REPLY:
Sat Naam Veer Ji,
Dandauth bandhna ji,

channel all your emotions into Gurbani. Read Salok M:9, Guru Tegh babadur Ji urges us to get our of maya and not to waste our life. When we look within we have so much to work on , so be thankful that God has given us the chance to do that. and pray to God-Guru to also give other people that opportunity too. Its not for us to get frustrated at them, we are all at different stages on the journey of our soul. some aare ahead, some are further back, some are enluightened, some dont even believe in God and its all due to their Karma when they will change. so be thankful to the Lord for changin you, for waking you up and just think good of everyone. Dalai Lama said that whoever he meets he tries to find at least one good thing about them that is better about them than himself. It helps him to stay humble. Once he met a man who he couldn't see anything better about, he really struggled not to think bad about him. In the end the thought came "he has more hair than me!!" . so whoever we meet just try and take even one good quality from them and bring that into your life, and forget about all their stuff. They have to live with themselves and will reap what they sow, you only have to learn to live with your own mind in a peaceful happy positive way. People are also more likey to respopnd well to you if they feel you are not loooking down at them and judging them. so if you become humble and "live and let live" and just have an attitude of gartitude and of serving one and all as being Guru in every heart, then people will feel your love and humbleness and that may awaken some of them too.

Dassan Dass ji taught us a very good way to do Simran, do your ardas, sit down and start doing "haumai nahee tuhee-tu, haumai nahee tuhee-tu" meaning "no ego , You only You". And keep reciting this until it turns into "Sat Naam Sat Naam " - when ego goes, mind settles and Sat naam can be heard.

We also found when doing "haumai nahee tuhee-tu" it helped us to wash people's feet in the following order
1) wash the SatGuru ji's feet in our heart until we feel love in our heart. Take that feeling of love and
2) Wash thre SatSangat's feet in our heart until we feel love in our heart. Take that feeling of love and
3) Wash friends and family feet in our heart until we feel love in our heart. Take that feeling of love and
4) Wash our "enemies" feet - or the people we feel frustrated with or have issues with in our heart until we feel love in our heart.


That really worked for us - it is very difficult to do number 4 especially if you have strong issues with people. But that shows you how sharp the thron of ego is, your resistance is the thorn of ego pricking you. so that is what you have to earase on a daily basis. Until you can go from 1-4 with no resistance at all.

try it and let us know how it goes.

Dust of your feet
Harjit

A simple question for all of you - Giving money

QN:
Satnaam Jee Dandauth Jee, If someone out there asks you for some money to support himself and his family in India for example, you ask him to give you a receipt, just to give you your satisfaction so that you know how and where the money is going, is there anything wrong with that? Personally, I dont believe there is anything wrong with it. If i need 20£ from you guys to buy myself some food, but then you say "No problems, I will give it, but you would have to show me through receipt how the money was spent". I would think this is totally acceptable. If I was truthful, I should not have any fear of giving you the receipt! and If i seriously needed help, I would agree to taking money off you and have no problems giving you receipts to show how money was spent, wouldn't I? I wouldn't say "You dont need to ask me for the receipt for giving 50-100£, because people out there are giving £10,000-£15,000 and don't ask for receipt" I dont care about those people. I simply need receipt to give me my assurance because I am no brahm gianee who will be able to read your mind and know exactly what you are upto! Please share your views!

REPLY FROM HARJIT:

Sat Naam Ji,
Dandauth Bandhna ji

if they are going to cheat you, then what makes you think their receipt is genuine?

Its all Karma - whatever money you give for whatever reason is just the story.
The real thing is the karma that the money had to go from you to wherever it is goping to end up - whether
in the mouth of the poor (as you hoped according to your story), or in the pockets of the cheat.

Baba Ji gave us a very simple system, Baba ji said if some beggar asks you for money, give them some.
Just see it as past karma coming to take it dues.
If they dont say how much they want then give them whatever feels right to you.
If they give you a figure then give them that.
We said to Baba Ji in India if you give to one beggar then hundred more come.
Baba ji said to keep giving.

Susan did this literally. Once in the shppoing centre a homeless guy came and she gave hims some, then loads of others came too and she gave them all some just seeing Baba ji's face in them all. And she has become Dhan Dhan by doing this.

There is also another saying that "the mouth of the poor is the guru's moneybox" - so it is always best to give food if you can, because most homeless people will spend it on drink or drugs rather than eating. In India my Dad always gave bananas to every beggar. The fake ones got disappointed!! Once at a train station , a person asked Dad to get some apples for him. Dad was delighted and bought a whole bag full, the person said he only wanted 3 - and walked off. He had two companions and gave it to them. That is contentment - there are Sadhu's in India who only beg for what they need for that day or that moment and trust in God to provide again next time they need something.

If you dont feel right to give someone the money , especially if you tested him about the recipt and they trie to use guilt trips, then dont trust them and dont give it. Just save it and give it yourself directly to homeless people - there are plenty of people in London who could do with some help.

Dust of your feet

Harjit

REPLY FROM DASSAN DASS JI:

IK OANKAAR SATNAAM SATGUR PARSAADDHAN DHAN PAAR BRAHAM PARMESAR JEEDHAN DHAN GUR GURU SATGUR GURBANI SATSANGAT SATNAAM GURU PYARE JEE: YOU CAN GIVE THE MONEY AS IF YOU ARE GIVING IT AWAY AND DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN AS IF YOU ARE GIVING IT TO A CHARITY. HELPING POOR IS DIFFERENT OR GIVING CHARITY IS DIFFERENT, BUT EXPECTING A RETURN BECOMES A CAUSE OF PROBLEM. THIS HAS HAPPENED TO HARJIT JEE BEFORE. DASSAN DASS

Honour of the honourless

Ik Oankaar Sat Naam Sat GurParsaad.

Prabh jee thoo mera praan adhaara namaskaar dandauth bandhna anek baar jao baaray.

Dear Lord, you are the support of my soul, I greet your with pressed palms and prostrations, I am a sacrifice to You countless many times...Guru Arjun Dev Ji.

 

 

With Guru Ji's kindness the following realisation has really helped us in the last few days to become more humble.  We would like to share it with you.

 

There is a story that when Guru Amar Das ji was walking through the forest early one morning fetching a pitcher of water from the well for His beloved Guru Angad Dev ji, he stumbled and disturbed a sleeping couple in a hut nearby.  The husband asked, "who is that?" to which his irritated at being woken up wife snapped, "oh its just that homeless old man - Amaru!"  She couldn't have been further from the Truth, because when Guru Amar Das Ji was annointed as the third Guru Ji, Guru Angad Dev ji gave Him the title of "Home of the homeless - nithaaviaan da thaa."

 

This means that on the Bhagti Marg (path of devotion) the homeless one is not the one who doesn't have a house, it is the one who has given up pride of his house.  When we become homeless in attitude like this, then SatGuru ji becomes our home.

 

In our Ardas we can say to Sat Naam Sat Guru ji everyday, "Nimaaniaa di maan SatGuru Ji, Ni-otiaan di ot SatGuru Ji, Ni-thaaviaan di thaan SatGuru ji, Ni-aasiaray dee aas SatGuru Ji, Nirdhaanta di Dhann SatGuru Ji."

 

"Nimaaniaa di maan SatGuru Ji"  Ni-maanaa means the one who has no honour.  This doesn't mean like a women who has been raped or a respected person who has been shamed.  On the Bhagti Marg this means in our heart we have given up taking pride in worldy things. For example, I may be proud of my handsome body and that makes me feel special.  I may also me proud of my achievements and my job and status.  I may also be proud of my children and their achievements, proud of my pretty wife, my expensive car, good name, reputation, caste and even proud of my religion.  Over the years I have built myself up on the support of taking pride in all these things.  That is Maan - they give me Maan - respect.  However, when any of those things are attacked or taken away I may become angry, violent, defensive or in the worst case, I may even commit suicide because my whole support structure has been taken away.  This has happened recently to an Enron executive who committed suicde after Enron went bankrupt were the scourge of the country and his heroes - the CEO and other directors were found to be corrupt.  His wife said that her husband lived, breathed and ultimately died Enron.  It happens in religion and politics too.  This is abhimaan - disrespect & abuse.  At some level we are supporting ourself in false pride of these things around us.  When we give it up , when we take the risk and say to SatGuru ji, "none of these things are mine and it is false to take any pride in them," then we become Ni-maaniaa - without respect - wwithout honour in our mind, and then we say to SatGuru ji "You and only You are my Maan"  - "Maan karo tudh upaaray meray preetam pyaaray ...I only take Maan in You my beloved Lord.".Guru Arjun Dev Ji.

 

"Ni-otiaan di ot SatGuru Ji" - Ot means support , like when we are a child are very old , we rely heavily on support from our family.  Or when we are sick we rely heavily on the support of Doctors and nurses.  In a worldy sense , the ones who have no support are dying all alone in villages in Africa and India.  But, becoming support-less doesn't mean we give up having family and others around us.  It means in our mind we give up the comfort we get knowing that if anything goes wrong we have our family or medical service to support us.  So at a deep level we say to SatGuru ji , if anything happens to us we only rely in your support as we have no other support to turn to - SatGuru ji you are the Support of the ones without support.

 

"Ni-aasiaray dee aas SatGuru Ji," - Aas means hopes.  We have so many hopes keeping us alive.  We hope for something that is why we get up and out of bed and keep on striving for those hopes to come true.  Someone may hope to see the children get married and works hard saves up for that day.  Someone else may hope to get a promotion or to get married to a particular person.  We have so many hopes that dangle infront of us like a carrot on string infront of our donkey mind.  When are hopes and wishes don't come true, we can get depressed - hopeless.  But we dont become Ni-aasiaray by being a hopeless, depressed person.  On this Bhagti Marg - Ni-aasiaray means inside us at a deep level we say to SatGuru ji we now give up all the worldy hopes we have been living for and now we put all our hopes in you SatGuru ji.  So we still work and get out of bed and strive onward and forward in this world as per our karma, but that isnt the be-all and end-all of our existance.  We work to live, not live to work.  We live to serve without any hopes of worldy rewards, our hopes lie ONLY with our SatGuru ji.  Whether worldy things come or go, our hopes our all tied up into our SatGuru ji.  Then our mind never beomces  depressed or hopeless in the wordly sense.  It always stays in humility and in selfless living.

 

"Nirdhaanta di Dhann SatGuru Ji." - Dhann means wealth.  Nirdhannta is the one without wealth.  On the Bhagti Marg this means the one who has given up pride in his wealth and properties.  It doesn't mean the one who is without worldy wealth - the poor one financially.  It doesn't mean we have to become poverty stricken to realise the Truth.  It just means at a very deep level within us we pray to SatGuru ji and say " we give up taking pride and the feeling of finncial security we get from our property and wealth."  We become Nirdhannta and SatGuru ji steps in to become our wealth, our financial security.

 

So in summary ji, there maybe millions of people in the world like monks who are striving for God and who physically leave their homes to become homeless, give away all their wealth and properties to take a vow of poverty, who leave the support of the families perhaps as a result of feeling like a failure when their worldy hopes did not come true.  There also maybe millions of people who feel secure in the pride of their wealth, of the home, of their big family to support them and keep their mind busy in fulfilling their hopes.  But, both these ways - the monk and the householder do not lead to the Truth if pride is still there.  The only way to get rid of ego is to recognise all the things we are taking pride in, to give them up and replace them with full faith that SatGuru ji is now our home, our wealth, our hope and our support no matter what happens in the world to us.

 

When we become nothing, then Sat Naam Sat Guru becomes everything.

 

Air rushes into a vacuum.

 

Truth rushes into a humble heart. 

 

Jub hum hothay tub thoo nahee,

Ab thohee ma nahee.

Whilst "I" existed You did not (exist within me)

When You came then "I" didn't.   Gurbani.

 

Thankyou SatGuru ji for being able to write this article, for showing us the true meaning and being able to share it.

 

Dust of your feet

 

Harjit

 

 

Confused about who is the one and only true SatGuru?

Satnaam ji, dandauth bandhna ji,

sharing a chat with Taranjeet ji this morning.

 

Taranjeet: Ppyaare paarbrham dey payaare jee.  We came acroos one website www.sahibbandgi.org . It says by Sant shrimani Kabir jee  is the only satguru that can cross u from this ocean of mind.  And they say it is Amarlok where one gets real salvation otherwise one gets false salvation created by mind-formless kaal niranjan

  and mind is kartar,  mind is doing all.  They say that one nirgun God whch people take about is mind's trap.  God is not kaal-akaal,  He is beyond that and only Satguru like satgur madhu paramhans has that naam daan which take u out of this.

 

Harjit: Satnaam ji, has this put some kind of confusion in your mind? Is that what you are asking?

 

Taranjeet: yes jee.

 

Harjit: who cares about salvation? "Raj na chahu mukat na chau munn preet charankamalaray."  So when you feel love, then you know you are right and when you dont feel love then you know your mind is off.

 

Taranjeet: yes jee, it is truth.

 

Harjit:  We cant find the answer from outside, always just see how much love this person or website is making me feel.

 

Taranjeet: Yes jee.

 

Harjit: Ask yourself , after reading this, how do i feel?

 

Taranjeet: We felt confused - although their love for satgur is great there.

 

Harjit: Then work out if that is getting you closer to Truth or further away?  There are so many ways and so many teaching and so many people at all kinds of stages in their journey.  It is just TOO COMPLICATED to understnand all the ways and all the plays of God.

 

Taranjeet: har dum har ko mungoo jee.  Yes jee.  He keeps on making fool of this fool!   He is love!

 

Harjit: And its not in our hands the Guru HE comes to us as.  If you know you were praying sincerely to God and you trust God, then trust that HE has sent you the right one for YOU at this time in space and time.

 

Taranjeet: sada sukhee rahoo jee.

 

Harjit: Thats what helps me to stay on track.  When the write on their website "He is truly THE ONLY real master, "  then that is what Christians also say about Jesus, that is what Muslims say about Muhammed, that there way is the ONLY way.

 

Taranjeet: yes and thats is where illusion lies.

 

Harjit: we never like that kind of thinking from day one, it has EGO of the follower behind it.

 

Taranjeet: yes jee.

 

Harjit: We asked a Christian once, if he believed that Jesus was the ONLY way?

 

Taranjeet: u giving us strength.

 

Harjit: and if He did then did that mean that all other ways were doomed?  He gave us a really good and true answer, he said to us "I believe Jesus is the ONLY way for me."  So just trust that whatever path God has put us on after we were praying sincerely to meet him, is the ONLY way for us.  And whatever path others are on is the path for them at this time and place in space.

 

Taranjeet: yes Satgur is our lover.

 

Harjit: All we have to do is keep on looking inside and if we are getting love and peace of mind then thats good, but if our path is making us egotistical and proud then that is the path of the Panj Dhoots.

 

Taranjeet: u are truth jee.  Sada sukhee rahoo jee.

 

Harjit: Dassan Dass ji also requested us a while back to STOP reading other wisdom, just to do simran and if we were going to read then only to read BRAHM GYAN.  Read only those writings from a Brahm Gyani.   So we have cut down reading other books and websites now and gone back to reading Gurbani and the website.

 

Taranjeet: yes we had same feeling frm inside.

 

Harjit: that is Truth then.

 

Taranjeet: thanks for showering blessing on ever illusioned doubtful fool.

 

Harjit: Otherwise it is TOO CONFUSING.  As many people as there are in the world are as many paths!!!

 

Taranjeet: God bless u eternity and love jee.  You are so blessed and dhan dhan jee.

 

Harjit: thankyou ji, your are so kind, we are nothing, all this wisdom is thanks to Baba Ji and Dassan Dass ji – we hav eno wisdom of our own.

 

Taranjeet:  This ool has disturbed dhan dhan babajee also by mailing him please forgive this ever mistake making fool jee

Harjit: dhan dhan sukhee raho ji.

 

Taranjeet: bye lovable jee.

 

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Dust of your wife

 

Harjit

From Attachment to Hatred in one easy step

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Meditate Upon The Truth <satsatsat@gmail.com>
Date: 2007/1/26
Subject: From Attachment to Hatred in one easy step
To: gurmukhs@yahoogroups.com

satnaam sada satnaam

dandauth bandhana ji

 

From Attachment to Hatred in one easy step ...

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Going from attachment to hatred takes one easy step ... FEAR. 

Fear of losing what you think you love.

 

A great soul said "Where there is attachment, there is hatred, which is a reflection of fear. Fear is born out of attachment, the fear of losing what one has. Attachment and fear breed hatred.  These three vices lead a person to stray from the virtues of earnestness and faith. Hence, attachment, hatred and fear have to be brought under control."  

 

In the words of the 1980s singer Annie Lennox "You hurt me, I hate you."  This song was a top ten best seller, showing many people related to the words.

 

But can I really blame anyone else for hurting me emotionally?

 

Ask well is that statement true, "You hurt me" ?

 

And I may say "Yes, its true, the one I loved with all my heart hurt me."

 

But is it absolutely true, "You hurt me?"

 

Am I not responsible for how I feel?   Instead of blaming others, is it not more true to say "I let myself be hurt?"

 

How did I let myself be hurt?   I had a natural feeling that I needed love.   I needed attention and I needed affection.  I couldn't stand lonliness.   I needed someone to love and someone to love me.    When I let that person into my life, I felt complete, I felt happy, I was in what I thought was love.   But then I started feeling jealous everytime they gave someone else attention.    Over time I started saying "You don't love me, you don't care about me."   I was so full of fear of losing that person, that I started trying to control them and manipulate them to stay with me.    When that didn't work then I felt despair at losing them, but that soon changed into hatred for their betrayal. 

 

And now how does it make you feel, when you have that thought, "You hurt me"? 

 

It makes me feel like I was used and abused, that what was most precious to me – my heart, was given to someone else in trust and they broke it.    It fills me with anger and hatred.

 

How would I be if I never had that thought "You hurt me"?

 

Well, I would be peaceful and calm.  I would feel happy and contented.  

 

Have I ever thought that the opposite might be true, that rather than "You hurt me", it was actually "I hurt myself."   

 

I know all the love I need is already inside me – God's Light.  I know that my Guru has taught me not to blame anyone else for anything, that the only enemies I have are my five thieves.   The thief that has stolen my amrit-lifeforce this time is MOH – selfish attachment.   It was my MOH that got attached to that person, but when FEAR of losing them came into my mind then I began filling with HATRED because I felt they had hurt me.    Infact, know I understand, it was my own MOH that hurt me.  Baba Ji said to overcome MOH I don't leave contact with all people and live like a recluse in the mountains.   No, I just take the selfish aspect out of it.  And what is left?  The caring part, the loving part, the serving part, the living for the God in the other part.     When I am in MOH I think only of my own happiness, of being served , of being loved, of being the centre of attention and affection.      In the words of another pop song, "If you love someone, set them free."    That is the greatest love.  To love with all your heart the God in their heart and in every heart.   Baba Ji said that that is what God did on making the Creation, He loved each soul so much that He let us all go – set us all free.  And if we are really His lovers we will come back.   Which is the greatest joy for God, but if we don't come back then God does not fill with anger or hatred towards us.  Deep within us He still loves us, fills us with our amrit-lifeforce and patiently waits for us – lifetimes in most cases.

 

Baba Ji said, "If you love someone set them free, if they are to be with you then they will come back."     So trust in God, let the selfish part of MOH go, keep the loving serving part for yourself.  Come into peace and let hatred go.  Meditate on God's Light – God's Name : Satnaam under the blessing of your personal Guru.    And realise that all the love you need is already dormant within.

 

Perhaps the words should be "Moh hurt me, I still love you."

 

Dust of your feet

 

Harjit

 

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