Who can we blame when it's all God doing it to Himself?

Satnaam Satnaam Satnaam ji whatever we are  angry about, or resent, or hate about what happened in our life; whatever it is that causes our mind to stay unbalanced, holding grudges, it's not worth it.   It happened, we can't change it, but we can change how we think about it.  We hold grudges or complain and blame because we think we are somehow punishing the other person or even God by withholding our friendship with them or love towards them.    It makes no difference to the other person, we only poison our own mind with the  negativity we won't let go of.   As long as we see us and them, me and the other, then overcome our pain by telling others what happened to us, get it off our mind, and then forgive and forget.   Or if we go even  beyond seeing me and the other as seperate, just see it God in them, God in us, all was just God doing it to God himself.     Then our ego suffers no more as it was just an illusion that it was me and the other .    "Kis nu kaheeaa nanaka sabh kish aapay aap.    What can be said (to blame any one else) when it was all Him Himself?"     This is dhan baba nanak ji's wisdom, no one can  understand or accept it without grace.     Gid bless all.