Playing at Happy Families

Sat Naam,

 

extract from an email we sent:

 

Dont take this the wrong way, but for every person their own troubles are the worst, wether its a child or an adult. 
And in the end its all false, its all a big joke, all these things everyone thinks is so important, its not. 
That's why it is so funny, because God is playing this joke of everyone living out their Karma, hence everyone
getting caught up in dukh and sukh, pain and pleasure, give an take, mine and yours.
 
Guru Arjun Dev ji said in sukhmani, the one who expels evil from his own heart sees the whole world as his friend."
 
Guru Nanak said "I am not good no-one is bad, praying like this nanak has been ferried across."

 
I get on with people around me, but i know it is all false and its not going to last, oOur cousin's mum has gone, his brother has gone, all the laughter and arguments we had with them have all disappeared into our memories.  Even in this short life, so many people ahve already come and gone that I have known, grandparents, people in India we visited.   So at the end of the day, they have died, their issues due to their KARMA have come and gone.  So its all a joke - meaning it matters to us whilst we are alive, but we arent alive for very long, so it doesnt really matter at all.
 
Gurbani says "naam bina sabh mithya" -without Naam all is false.
 
So I have made Naam into my friend, my whole world revolves around Naam, as long as I am OK with God, then I am OK with everyone.  Rest is just KARMA - happy families, as you say.  But it wont last as its foundations are false, if we are playing happy families but feeling unhappy on the inside, then what is on the inside will come out and the house comes crumbling down.
 
Guru Nanak said that Maya (worldliness based on ego) is such a force that she makes father and son fight, that she breaks every relationship.  So all family life based on Maya is doomed to fail sooner or later.  Its the same in every house , was true at Guru Nanak's times, is still true now.  Dassan Dass ji has taught us that the only truth is finding truth within yourself, being honest with yourself as to what you are, as to what actions and thoughts we are doing and seeking out their root cause.   Instead of pointing the finger at others, to point the finger inwards and admit our own weaknessess, confes them, ask for forgiveness and ask for Naam in our heart.  That is the only way to peace.  Trying to control others actions is not going to give us peace, trying to defend ourselves against others is not going to give us peace.
 
Understand that God is the Creator and Only Do-er , we are only standing because he has put breath insdie us, when he takes the breath away we drop to the ground says Guru Tegh Bahadur ji.   So how important are we really, how important is our life in maya, how important is our daily chasing in the rat race, to accumulate things beyond what we need, and to live in an unpeaceful state of mind.
 
This realm of living is all ego, pride and arrogance, where we think we are important, that we are doing something and are capable fo doing things,  under the darkness of ego we chase our desires, we get trapped in the web of anger, greed, lust, family attachments, slander, gossip, backbiting and so many other ills of the mind.
 
And why are we suffering like this, because we a re reaping what we have sown.  I have been all those things in my life, and Dassan dass ji explained to us that we have to constantly pray for forgiveness for our misdeeds - known and unknown.  In praying for forgiveness for ourself, the suffering we are to reap is reduced and removed.  In forgiving others, we are forgiven by God.
 
Doing Naam simran, with humbleness and forgiveness are the only medicine prescribed by the gurus for saving us from the mental hell we have created for ourself.
 
God bless you.  I cant get into these maya family issues anymore, they never finish , they never stop until we ask guru to get us out of here.   God bless you, God bless the whole family to be really happy in Naam, and not in the falseness of Maya.

 

 

Dust of your feet

Harji