IN RESPONSE TO SOMEONE WHO IS STRESSED BY THEIR MANAGER
SatNaam Ji,
From what you said, you are just very stressed at the moment. The frustration of not being able to FIGHT or to take FLIGHT
is coming out as anger as you rightly said. That anger is reason why your mind couldn't settle in the meditation. You asked for guidance so what you need to do is deal with the anger. If you dont deal with the anger and keep it in, it will turn into depression and sickness in your body.
There are a few options. Whenever we have a problem like this we have basically three options:
a) accept it,
b) change it,
c) leave it.
Firstly, just accept your situation as for the best, trust in God that everything will turn out ok and just keep on doing your work. Its actually only your ego thats getting offended, then that retalliates as anger.
Secondly, if you cant truly accept it, then either talk to your manager about all the issues (have to overcome your fear of doing this or the consequences of doing this). At the end of the day, even your manager is just a person with weakness and issues like most other people. Like a dog only barks because its actually scared inside.
Thirdly, make an escape plan!
You will probably have to do a bit of all the above. But once you have dealt with this issue, you will find your anger subsides, and you will be able to still your mind for meditation.
Also, whenever you do find those thought overwhelming you, then step back , name the thoughts eg "these thoughts are coming from anger", let them go like clouds in the sky, and come back to the mantra "Sat Naam Sat Naam" - Truth - Truth.
Keep focusing on the others person's good qualities, pray for their upliftment, forgive them and do something good for them eg give them chocolates, take some things in for them and the team etc. Be positive.
On the spiritual path, all difficult people are actually all our teachers. They highlight all of our inner weaknesses which are called the five thieves (anger, ego, greed, attachment and lust). These are our real enemies that stop our mind from settling. No-one else is our enemy.
Dust of your feet
Harjit
From what you said, you are just very stressed at the moment. The frustration of not being able to FIGHT or to take FLIGHT
is coming out as anger as you rightly said. That anger is reason why your mind couldn't settle in the meditation. You asked for guidance so what you need to do is deal with the anger. If you dont deal with the anger and keep it in, it will turn into depression and sickness in your body.
There are a few options. Whenever we have a problem like this we have basically three options:
a) accept it,
b) change it,
c) leave it.
Firstly, just accept your situation as for the best, trust in God that everything will turn out ok and just keep on doing your work. Its actually only your ego thats getting offended, then that retalliates as anger.
Secondly, if you cant truly accept it, then either talk to your manager about all the issues (have to overcome your fear of doing this or the consequences of doing this). At the end of the day, even your manager is just a person with weakness and issues like most other people. Like a dog only barks because its actually scared inside.
Thirdly, make an escape plan!
You will probably have to do a bit of all the above. But once you have dealt with this issue, you will find your anger subsides, and you will be able to still your mind for meditation.
Also, whenever you do find those thought overwhelming you, then step back , name the thoughts eg "these thoughts are coming from anger", let them go like clouds in the sky, and come back to the mantra "Sat Naam Sat Naam" - Truth - Truth.
Keep focusing on the others person's good qualities, pray for their upliftment, forgive them and do something good for them eg give them chocolates, take some things in for them and the team etc. Be positive.
On the spiritual path, all difficult people are actually all our teachers. They highlight all of our inner weaknesses which are called the five thieves (anger, ego, greed, attachment and lust). These are our real enemies that stop our mind from settling. No-one else is our enemy.
Dust of your feet
Harjit
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