getting frustrated doing housework?

SatNaam Ji

Dandauth Bandhna Ji

 

a  couple of weeks ago in the sangat, Namjeevan mentioned that whilst doing housework or trying to control the kids we find ourselves getting really frustrated.   We could all relate to it.  Thoughts like "Why do i have to do this?"  or "They treat me like a servant?"  or "why aren't others helping, I seem to be doing everything?"  and so on.   Namjeevan mentioned that we have to conquor those frustrations as well.

 

Dassan Dass ji has already given us the solution a) never complain about anything as that is not accepting the Hukam of our situation.  With guru Ji's kirpa we have realised recently that Hukam means accepting what God wants us to do, whereas complaining means we dont WANT to do it.  Hukam = what God wants. Desire = what we want.  By following Hukam our ego dies,  by following desires our ego increases.   Guru Nanak Ji, Baba Ji, Dassan Dass Ji and all the Divine souls have told us to get rid of HAUMAI(ego) + TRISHNA (desires).

 

Anyway, coming back to doing household tasks, what we resolved to do was to pray before commencing each task.  To physically put our palms together in prayer postiion, to recite "Ik OANKAR SATNAAM SATGURPARSAAD" as given to us by Dassan Dass ji, and then to recite a verse from gurbani "Teree Seva Teree Seva teree seva, mukat bhugat jugat teree seva" - meaning "in your seva, your seva, your seva is liberation, enjoyment and divine union."   Then we commenced with washing dishes, or cooking, or cleaning or serving the kids.  Before each single task we did it for last couple of weeks.  Even before going toilet, even before eating.   It has really worked and kept our mind cool.     Dassan dass ji has asked us all to keep doing our ardas every 5 minutes during thwe day, so this is a simple and easy way of doing so we found.  [although last night we forgot to do it and snapped at the kids, compalined about the food and asked for forgiveness from guru ji right away.]

 

Also a couple of weeks ago in sangat in our simran we were asking Guru ji to show us how we can surrender, to keep on guiding us from within.  And we were gettiing the thoughts to go back to basics, to wipe the shoes of the family in the morning before doing simran, to serve the family as sangat, to keep washing their feet in our meditation, to become a servant.  Then Namjeevan ji also shared what she expereinced.  she said that normally she is given visions, but this time she was given Braham Gian.   She was shown how Sita loved and served her husband Ram.  But even though he was her husband, she actually served god within him, that was her level of surrender and love.  The same with Ranj and Heera.  So to surrender trying to control our family members (which is due to selfish attachment - moh) and to replace with serving God within them, to ve them overflowing unconditional love, to be at their service and expect nothing in return (that is PREM PREM PREM - jin prem keeo tin hee prabh paaio - those who love realise God - guru gobind singh ji).

 

Dust of your feet

Harjit