Re: Fwd: : confusions

SatNaam Paramjit Ji,

thankyou for your email, we hope you read the reply from Dassan Dass Ji and found it useful.

However, it may have made you more annoyed and frustrated.

We have had  alot of anger issues over the last few years, but with Dassan Dass Ji's blessings we have managed to work through them.

Always remember veer ji that you are the soul, the jyot and that is always perfect divine light.

Remember you are not your anger or your hatred.  dont let that define you asa bad person.

Once you start feeling you are a bad person then it gets easier to carry on getting worse and worse.

Just remember these thoughts and actions of hate and anger are due to the 5 thieves which ar ein all of us and which torment all of us if we follow them

but due to your past blessings you have been blessed enough to come to a soul that can pray and help pyou through this time.

 

So please do not get offeneded by any reply sent to you.

 

As well as forgiving others for what they have done to you - whcih you will find very difficult - but not impossible, also remember to FORGIVE yourself.  You are the soul, not the body, you have so much goodness and light in you.  See yourself from the point of view of your wife and children and others who love you.  See that they are with your for your good qualities.  remind yourself you are loved, forgive yourself and everytime you get angry or hateful thoughts just do ardas "Satguru ji please forgive us and also i forgive myself.  I am the soul not this hate and anger."

 

You can fight your way out like this ji.

 

God bless you, keep on emailing us and telling us the problems and mistakes you are having.

 

worst thing is to keep it inside and to let it boil up and take control.

 

so keep releasing it as you have done.

 

we have added you to our web email group as well.

 

Dust of your feet

HArjit

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: SURINDER SINGH <dassandass3@yahoo.com>

GURU PYARE P JEE GOD BLESS YOU WITH SATBUDHI. WHAT YOU ARE DOING WITH YOUR WIFE IS ABSOLUTELY WRONG, YOU ARE LIVING AS A SLAVE OF ANGER. YOUR SEVA WILL NOT BE ACCEPTABLE AS LONG AS YOU ARE FULL OF HATRED FOR YOUR WIFE AND HER PARENTS. SHE IS DOING NOTHING WRONG BY CARING FOR HER PARENTS. WE COMMEND HER FOR HER PATIENCE FOR TAKING SO MUCH HATRED FROM YOU AND STILL LIVING WITH YOU. SHE IS A GOOD SOUL BASICALLY AND YOU NEED TO RESPECT HER AS MUCH AS YOU RESPECT YOUR GURU, YOU NEED TO LOVE HER AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE YOUR GURU. SHE LIES TO YOU BECAUSE YOU BECOME A TERROR FOR HER, HER INTENTIONS ARE NOT BAD, YOUR INTENTIONS ARE NOT GOOD. YOU NEED TO ASK FOR HER FORGIVENESS, YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOURSELF, AND HELP HELP HER INSTEAD ABUSING HER. YOU NEED TO LOVE HER PARENTS AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE YOUR OWN PARENTS, YOU NEED TO LOVE HER PARENTS AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE YOUR GURU. SHE DESERVES TO LIVE IN YOUR HEART AND NOT UNDER YOUR FEET. ANGER NEEDS TO GO UNDER YOUR FEET, YOUR HATRED AND ALL BAD QUALITIES NEED TO LEAVE YOU, YOU NEED TO WORK ON THIS RIGHT AWAY. WE WILL REALLY APPRECIATE IF YOU DO ALL THIS THEN ONLY YOUR NITNEM AND SIMRAN HAS ANY MEANING, THEN ONLY YOU WILL BE ABLE TO WALK ON THIS PATH OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, TRUST AND DEVOTION. YOU ARE NOT A AMRITDHARI, AN AMRITDHARI IS A PURAN BRAHAM GYANI A PURAN SANT. YOU ARE JUST TRYING TO WALK ON THIS PATH BUT ARE FAILING MISERABLY DO TO ALL THIS ANGER AND HATRED INSIDE YOU AND THAT TOO FOR YOUR WIFE. PLEASE LET US KNOW WHAT YOU DO AFTER READING THIS MESSAGE. THEN WE WILL ADVISE YOU FURTHER, BUT FORST OF ALL YOU NEED TO SPIT ALL THIS ANGER AND HATRED FOR YOUR WIFE OUT AND ASK FOR AN APOLOGY FROM YOUR HIRDA TO HER, UNLESS SHE FORGIVES YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING.   DASSAN DASS --- On Mon, 8/3/09, Harjit <satsatsat@gmail.com> wrote: From: Harjit <satsatsat@gmail.com> Subject: Fwd: : confusions To: "SURINDER SINGH" <dassandass3@yahoo.com> Date: Monday, August 3, 2009, 10:03 AM ---------- Forwarded message ---------- Date: 2009/8/3 Subject: : confusions To: dassandas@gmail.com This is an enquiry e-mail via http://www.satnaam.info from: Veer g WAHEGURU JEE KA KHALSA WAHEGURU JEE KI FATEH I am 33 years,Amritdhari sikh in ludhiana.i am married having 2 kids a daughter 8years and a son 5years.i reciting WAHEGURU"s NAAM & meditate him everyday with routine NITNEM.i try hard to live in GURU"s razza & hukam.but oftenly i have ego problems with my wife & we quearlls everyday.i have lot a nafrat in my mind with her & with my in laws. she cares more her parents & go their home  too much. she speaks jhooth many times & i get anger. we shouted each other &very few times i beat her in anger.then i can"t do SIMRAN PAATH SEWA etc.even i anger too much with GOD.i read many articales in ur sight and many books on DHARAM but helpless, what shouid  i do.please guide me.