hard to do naam simran

QN:

Sat Shri Akal Ji,
                       Thanks for answering all those questions.
I want to tell the truth and that when i first came in contact with you. I did simran and nowdays i dont feel like doing it.I dont know what wrong with me.
I had a pressure on my mind to settle down abroad that is why i am always stressed.

Can you please help me and tell me what is the thing that decides people behaviour by that I mean to say some people are very  sweet by  nature and some are very rude.

REPLY:

 

Dearest Veer ji, Sat naam ji, Dandauth bandhna ji,

thankyou for all of your queations and for telling the truth of how you feel and what your state is.

Look at Gurbani, it shows us that its not easy to do Naam simran, not easy at all.  Even Bhai Gurdas Ji writes that in the beginning doing naam simran is like licking a tasteless rock.  While we have desire to taste the world of maya, then Naam simran will always seem tasteless - and who wants to lick a tasteless rock nowadays?

 

Baba Nanak Ji says it right "akhan aukha sacha nao" ... that it is hard to speak the name of Truth, and then Baba Nanak ji gives us the answer, "Sachay naam kee lagay bhukh , ut bhukay kaai chaliyaa dukh,"   That if we have hunger for the name of the True One, only then does the hunger for the tastes of thre world and the pains of the world leave us.

 

So dearest veer ji, we have been through these stages as well.  Your mind is coming from spending a lifetime and past lives too saturated in the tastes of the world of maya, and now is resisting to do the seeimingly tasteless Naam Simran.  The only way through this is to pray to be blessed with spiritual hunger, "Visar Nahee Datar apanaa naam deo, gun gavaay din raat, nanak chao eho"... O great Giver, give me Your Naam and singing your praises day and night, this is Nanak's deepest wish.

 

Who does Naam simran and gets the blessings and who gets sweetness from the tastless rock is in God-Guru ji's hand.  What we can do is pray, pray and keep on praying every day, every minute that SatGuru Ji please dont forget about me, please give me the gift of Naam Simran and singing your praises.   And on the other side, we have to make some efforts to stop chasing the tastes of the world.

 

Dassan Dass Ji' explained in the Sukhmani Katha that our personality is the result of our actions and reactions to circumstances in the past of this life and in past lives.   That is why the balance of the 5 thieves is different in everyone, we have all our own karma and our own story.   

 

When we are blessed with Naam, Naam has to become the Master within us.  Mera Sahib eko ha ..my Master is the One.  So when we are blessed with Naam, overtime the truth of other peoples intenttions towards you will come out.   So people who have been controlling you (pressuring you to go abroad),  will not like it that they cannot control you anymore.  How do they control you?  Through emotinal blackmail - we are you parents, we have done everything for you, you need to support us, you need to support your family ...and if you dont, they make you feel that you are not a good son, that you are selfish, that you dont care for the,, that you are ungrateful wrtech who should not have been born.    How does that work in making you go abroad and doing what they want (but not what your heart wants), because your MOH (family attachment) is strong, so they manipulate you because of your own MOH - which makes you feel terrible if you dont obey them.  The desire for us to have our parents approval in all that we do is very, very strong and very, very difficult to get out of.   But MOH is a thief and gurbani has taught us to beat it.  Your relationship with your family is all false, your love with your family is all false if it is all due to MOH - emotional blackmail - conditional love - "we will love you if you do as we say, we wont love you if you dont obey."   Every child id pure and innocent, parents like this are the masters of manipulation for their own selfish ends. But when you have Naam, then God Himself - the sleeping Giant within you, starts to awaken, starts to give you strength to beat MOH.  When you beat MOH who will scream - MOH in you will scream that your are going against your parents wishes,  and who else will scream - the MOH inside your parents will scream as well that they are losing control of their children.

 

But NAAM is the greates and cannot have another other Master, so MOH will lose if you hold onto the feet of your Guru through this storm of MOH,  And when the storm settles all relationships will be reformed in love, reformed with mutual respect and without trying to control each other.

 

These are all the challenges ahead of you.

 

We have been through this with our own family so are telling you the 100% Truth.

 

Naam is the greatest,

Guru is the greates,

let the whole world rot and die in MOH MAYA

but may the Guru's Lotus feet of Naam never leave my heart.

 

Dust of your feet

 

Harjit